Having a relationship come to an end is never easy, no matter how far in advance you may see the end coming. It doesn’t matter how it ends, whether peaceful or after a battle, something deep within still makes you feel off-balance. Removing the “heartache of a love lost” from the picture, the reality is you just lost a good friend. Sure, you may be able to build a friendship back up after some time, but suddenly it sets in that your day-to-day confidant, the first person typically on your mind when it isn’t occupied elsewhere, has become the last person you can go to. This is the hardest part: making the adjustment at the drop of a hat without any time to wean yourself off of the familiar.
Thankfully, when your ship gets tossed, there are others who step up and want to help you set sail again. They are great support systems that keep you busy enough to minimize those pesky, irrational (and unfortunately, inevitable) post-break-up thoughts. However, the most important part of adjusting is going back to the basic, fundamental focus of tackling the things that make you happy while letting the rest fall into place. It’s extremely important to take the time to look back, reflect, take notes, and move on. The moving on can be difficult, but achievable in the long run, if one commits to focusing on core happiness.
I am thankful for the people I have in my life, the strength I have in my own beliefs, and the clarity I have on achieving my goal to appreciate, love and respect the life I have been blessed with. I’m looking forward to all the rewards and challenges that 2014 has yet to share with me.